by Christy Gualtieri
For years I worked at a coffee shop, and you’d always know when January 1st would come around, because once the holiday decorations came down, up went the signs for the “skinny” drinks: the sugar-free, fat-free concoctions designed to help you cut out those calories without cutting out your daily latte fix. It seems like such common knowledge that once January hits, out goes all the joy and cheerfulness of December, and in comes all the hard work and sacrifice. 2014 is for the Old You; the message seems to be. 2015 is for the New You: new, improved, and wonderful!
I kind of have a problem with that.
I’ve had many, many New Year’s resolutions over the years, ranging from serious (finishing a long-overdue writing project) to silly (joining a fantasy football team). I’ve never kept one; or if I had, it was long after the winter months and had nothing to do with resolving to do so way back in January. New Year’s resolutions seem like such good ideas, though, don’t they? Here comes a clean slate, a chance to reset the calendar year and start fresh with a new you and a new outlook.
Now, don’t get me wrong: there is nothing unhealthy about having a new outlook – I firmly believe it’s vital to human existence from time to time – but I don’t know if you need a “new you,” or if I need a “new me.” We just…are who we are. Everyone has things they’d like to change about themselves, of course, and I don’t want to stand in the way of someone who is resolving to be nicer to people on the Internet or someone who’d like to try to be punctual in the new year, but those things are superficial. The real us, the one that lies beneath all the fluff and all the mistakes and all the victories we have, that real us is more than enough and does not need to be made over just because the calendar says so.
No matter how many flaws we have, no matter how deep they go, we are still valuable and lovable just as we are – today. Right now, regardless of whether or not you meet a certain set of goals you’d like to attain in the coming year.
I wish you a very happy, very healthy 2015, full of life and love and the joy that comes from self-discovery. It’s hard work, but it’s fulfilling work; and I hope it bears wonderful fruit for you!
All the best!
Christy Gualtieri is a freelance writer specializing in pop culture, religion, and motherhood. She lives in Pittsburgh with her husband and son, blogs at openthoseojos.wordpress.com, and tweets @agapeflower117.
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