Finding An Oasis

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By Christy Gualtieri

No, I have not yet read The Hobbit — but I recently came across a great quote from the book that I wanted to share with you:

“His house was perfect, whether you liked food, or sleep, or work, or story-telling, or singing, or just sitting and thinking best, or a pleasant mixture of them all.  Evil things did not come into that valley.”  – The Hobbit, A Short Rest

It’s a great image, isn’t it? And I bet you know of a home like that, or maybe not even a home exactly, but a place somewhere you’ve been that exudes a sense of “perfection” to you.  I aspire for my house to be that house — that house that has something for everybody, that house that inspires people to be their absolute best.  An oasis in the desert, a port in the storm.

Take quick second and think about what that house would look like for you.  What would be in the house? What would you be able to do there? How would it be decorated? For a few minutes, just think about what it would be like to be in this space – this sanctuary – and what you would feel.

I know that if I was in a perfect house like that, I would just feel peace.  As a person who struggles mightily with anxiety and excessive worry, I know I would need it.  And these days, to be honest, I think we could all use a little more peace.  So much of what we take in throughout the day can be so distracting at best and utterly terrifying at worst, and it can be awful to feel like there is no place for you to feel loved, respected, and safe.

And what is the result? Check out the last sentence of the excerpt: “Evil things did not come into that valley.”  When we are in a space of peace, it becomes very noticeable when non-peaceful things are around, and so we know better how to resist them.  We learn how to identify that which does not bring us peace, or joy, or love, and we learn how to resist them to the point that they will have a hard time approaching us.  We become people of peace, of joy, and of love.

It might seem like a pipe dream, but you can make your own home a place of peace.  You can cultivate that environment, and your home can one day be that place where people who most need it find that great “mixture of things” that helps them.  And it doesn’t have to be your physical home, either — it can be you, too.  Do you know people like that? People who just seem to exude peace and joy? Not that they are devoid of struggle, or pain, but they seem to find joy outside of it?

I envy people like that.  I am most certainly not that person.  But I do know they exist.  I have met them, and am even lucky enough to call some of them my friends.  It doesn’t have to be about the house — the oasis you need can be found in another person.  We can find it in each other!

Until next time, be well!

Christy Gualtieri is a freelance writer specializing in pop culture, religion, and motherhood. She lives in Pittsburgh with her husband and son, blogs at, and tweets @agapeflower117. Follow PghPsych on Facebook and Twitter for daily updates, inspirational quotes, articles, and different events and causes related to good mental health.